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– a Comparison between North America and Australia by Evelyn Robinson, MA, Dip Ed, BSW Introduction I am often asked about current adoption policy and practice in Australia and how this differs from policy and practice in North America. Although I have never worked in a situation where adoptions were actually taking place, I have […]

Expecting? Considering adoption? The adoption agency may not have told you all your rights. If you are considering surrendering your baby for adoption, remember that you are the legal mother of your child unless you have signed termination of parental rights papers and any revocation periods have passed (revocation periods vary from province to province). […]

By Karen Wilson Buterbaugh For some time, I have wondered how in the world I got to this place. I have always tried to do the right thing in life, yet the results from making wrong choices were constantly staring me in the face. An example, and granted it is a huge one, was getting […]

You may be young and vulnerable and are probably unaware of sophisticated Sales and Marketing techniques being on you by the Adoption Industry. Let’s talk about that…. MARKETING TECHNIQUES BEING USED BY ADOPTION PROFESSIONALS All of these Marketing Techniques can be found in any Marketing Textbook, Handbook or online. OVERALL IMAGE Pro Adoption Websites use […]

“I did not realize I had been so deeply coerced since the very first phone call with the adoption agency. We were introduced to the term “Birth-parents” and that’s what we had become.” I have spent a week trying and failing to write this story. The emotion that needs to be present in this, our […]

1968:  GRIEF OF NATURAL MOTHERS. Sister Mary Borromeo, R.S.M., B.A., Dip.Soc.Wk. (1968) in  “Adoption: From the Point of View of the Natural Parents” Borromeo based this article on many years of work with unmarried mothers. Its purpose was to draw attention to the grief reaction which the natural mother experiences after the adoption of her […]

These are studies detailing the long-term consequences to natural mothers (“birthmothers”) of surrendering a baby for adoption. This is information that is in standard and widely-known social work and psychology articles and research reports. Adoption “professionals” are familiar with these studies — the findings are common knowledge. To give informed consent to adoption, mothers need […]

Further Reading: Adoption Trauma: Thirty Years of Research on the Damage to Relinquishing Mothers Adoption Induced Posttraumatic Stress Disorder in Mothers of the Baby Scoop Era (PDF) by Karen Wilson Buterbaugh Adoption and Loss, The Hidden Grief by Evelyn Robinson Effects of Adoption on Mental Health of the Mother: What Professionals Knew and Didn’t Tell […]

“The only thing I was ever told was that it was best to start separating now. To start addressing the child by the name the prospective adoptive parents picked out for him.  To think of myself as a birthmother rather than a mother” Heather Lowe, Mother    The “Loving Option” You may have been told […]

Over the last 30 years, the adoption industry has developed terminology in order to help “sell adoption,” even going to far as to admit that it is much like “selling cars.” This terminology set is known as “Positive Adoption Language” or “Respectful Adoption Language.” The term “Respectful Adoption Language” is misleading, as the only parties […]