BENEFITS OF REUNION
The difficulties associated with reunion can be daunting, but the rewards can also be great.
Mothers often feel empowered by telling their stories and learning about the lives of their children. When reunions are successful, joy increases as new relationships with their son/daughter are formed and begin to flourish. Mothers report finding peace of mind knowing what happened to their son/daughter. Many feel liberated from the secrecy and shame of the past which has constrained their lives. Lessening of fear. Even if there is no ongoing contact….”knowing” can be healing and transforming over time.
Adopted persons talk about “filling the hole in themselves”, “becoming whole”, resolving feelings that they have lived with their entire lives. Often, finding out that their mother did not abandon them, but loved them and grieved for them their entire lives gives them a sense of self esteem as they realize they were not “unwanted”, but very much loved and wanted. Adopted persons find mirrors in their new found family members, and some report feeling a true sense of belonging. Finding their history helps shape their future. A sense of relief, they can stop looking. Lessening of fear. As with mothers, “knowing” can have a changing effect on the lives of adopted persons over time.
Adoption Reunion is not a magical cure for life’s problems, but it does have many benefits. There may be disappointments and difficulties along the way, but most who wander into reunion territory are usually glad they did.