Taking the Crisis Out of Pregnancy

You are pregnant! Congratulations! Maybe no one has said that to you, or maybe you do not feel congratulations are in order as you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. The secret is…that most pregnancies are unplanned. It is not the end of your life….let’s talk about it, and some of the options you have to make it work for you.

First of all, it is not the end of the world….it is the beginning of something new in your life. It is not shameful or terrible. You did not plan for this at this time, but this is the hand you have been dealt, so you need to deal with it. Let’s put it in perspective…you have not committed a terrible crime… you have had unprotected sexual relations and this has resulted in an unplanned pregnancy. It happens every day to all kinds and ages of women, married and not married. You are just one of them. So let’s take it down a notch. Take some deeps breaths and repeat after me….it is not the end of my life…it is something I need to deal with and I am capable of dealing with it. I am pregnant, like millions and millions of women before me who dealt with it and I can deal with it too.

At this point, there are only two choices…. abortion, or taking your pregnancy to term. If you are taking your pregnancy to term, your focus right now should be on making sure you have a healthy pregnancy and delivery and to prepare for your child. We at Origins encourage the preservation of families and do not support the breaking up of families by the use of adoption where no abuse or risk is proven. Your child is your child already. On this site you can see the effects of adoption on relinquishing mothers and on adopted children. If you are planning to deliver your baby, we hope you will also plan to parent your child.

You are already a mother. Your baby already loves you, feels you, knows your breathing patterns, your heartbeat, your voice, your laugh, and everything you do. Your baby is connected to you in every way and bonded to you already – you re your child’s mother and you must keep in mind that if your child had to choose he or she would not choose to be with any other mother except you.

You have probably NOT been told that to have your baby separated from you at birth will cause a long lasting trauma to both of you which will last for the rest of both of your lives.

Imagine watching a little baby lion cub separated from his mother at birth. That little animal cries and cries for her and looks for her and tries to find her by her smell, and her breathing and her milk. If you were watching this little animal you would feel the panic until he found his mother, and then you would feel the relief when he did. Your child will too, and so will you….don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

You are your baby’s mother by the law of nature and no one can change that.

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