Adoption Reunion

First Contact Service

Origins Canada offers a First Contact Service for any natural parent or adopted person who believes they have found their loved one and wishes an experienced intermediary to make that “First Contact.”  It is recommended to have an intermediary at least in the first few steps of a reunion for several reasons.  For some, it can be shocking to suddenly have a son/daughter/mother on the other end of a phone or email without any prior notice.  Also, as you will learn in this section, it takes time to digest information and to become accustomed to the idea of having your separated relative in your life.  Someone with experience is also able to navigate the difficult aspects of reunion without direct emotional involvement.  Having an experienced intermediary can help to ensure success in the reunion process. If you are interested in this service contact val_origins@yahoo.com

Adoption Reunion

Finding loved ones lost through adoption separation is an important decision and an experience that comes with great rewards. Adoption reunions can be a time of anxiety and excitement. The reunion process has often been described as “an emotional roller coaster ride.”  But it is a ride worth taking…

Judith S. Gediman and Linda F. Brown in their book “Birthbond” states that “There’s no such thing as a perfect reunion. Every reunion is built on the foundation of closed adoption, and the closed adoptions from which these reunions sprang were permeated with secrecy, guilt, shame and loss. It’s a wonder that anything good and healthy could spring from such a soil, but it has.”

Many adoption reunions have gone awry because of the initial approach or the way they were handled. Hopefully the information here will help you to go through an adoption reunion with more understanding of the process and also give you some understanding of the pitfalls which prevent reunions from being successful.

It is recommended that you consider the process and to have some knowledge of the complexities of reunion; and to prepare yourself for the challenges and indeed the rewards of reunion before you embark upon your journey.

Factors Influencing Reunions
Stages of a Reunion
Reunion Issues
Fears Associated with Reunion
Reasons Why Reunions Fail
Tips for a Successful Reunion
What Adopted Persons Do Not Want to Hear
What Natural Parents Do Not Want to Hear

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