Baby Brokers come in all sorts and shapes - some call themselves
lawyers, others private practitioners and others just plain
social workers. The facts about them are quite simply
that they sell children to strangers for a living.
Baby Brokers are hired by desperate infertile couples to
hunt down other women’s children. It is no secret that
the vast majority of them are adopters themselves.
Though brokers
will adamantly deny that they choose sides in adoption,
they clearly do. Their mission is to find a child
to suit the needs of adopters, and not to actually
do anything on behalf of the child other then make them
the patsies for someone else’s pain.
Infertile couples though they may well have a number of
grief and loss issues do not have the right to claim nor
hunt down anyone’s child. Though I am quite sure
being infertile is a terrible loss it DOES NOT EQUATE with
the loss of a child from their entire family. And if society
wants to have empathy for these folks then why in the name
of God would we encourage them to rob someone else of their
child. They are merely transferring their problems
to someone else. I also do not think that infertility
compares to the horrific and life-long loss for adoptees
and their natural parents. Baby brokers are known for denying
this. The only person that counts are adopters - not the
parents and certainly not the innocent babies sacrificed
to cure the pain of strangers!
In addition women do not and should not exist to be breeders
for other people. Nor should they be exploited or
coerced to provide their flesh and blood to ease the pain
of strangers. Baby Brokers are infamous for encouraging
and shaming women into believing the fate of someone else
rests on their shoulders. This is a LIE and it does
not what so ever. Women who are pregnant do not owe
anyone anything much let alone a desperate infertile couple.
They are not responsible to fix or cure infertility
any more then we who have been the survivors of adoption
are.
Adoptees have
been the patsies and sacrificial lambs for years.
We have been adopted to be the replacements for the children
never born, for dead children, lost children and to fix
another persons problems. The very heart of adoption
is codependent as we must sacrifice our souls, our names
and our identities to please the lives of strangers.
Many will argue of stories of natural families abusing their
children. While there is clearly a need for child
protection adoption is by far not an answer. While
most people will use this as a blanket argument to promote
adoption the truth is that abuse in adoptive homes is absolutely
rampant. At least 25% of the adoptees that I have worked
with were abused by their adopters. This includes sexual,
physical and emotional abuse. Moreover, the majority
of mothers who lost their children to adoption were not
and are not abusers with most being excellent mothers to
children that they had after the loss.
The widespread
ignorance and labeling of natural mothers is a disgrace
as most were deemed as being unfit based on nothing intelligent
at all - just the sweeping powers of oppression by misguided
social agencies and government henchmen. A great social
cleansing that swept across North America where strangers
were deemed as being fit as they were married and anyone
not fitting into the oppressive government realm an outcast.
It is no wonder why so many of us were abused.
The issue of abuse is rarely discussed though as the so
called "home study" is supposed to screen and protect adopted
persons from predatory people like pedophiles and other
sociopaths. The system has clearly and evidently failed.
What is particularly scary is that while public home
studies have failed miserably the goals and objectives in
private adoptions are only ever one sided. They are
for the adopters. Moreover the objective of the
broker is to get paid - does it really matter by whom I
seriously doubt that it does. Where money is the first
priority children are bound to lose.
This is why
we have horrifying episodes like the darling babies sold
on the Internet. That story broke my heart seeing those
innocent babies being exploited. The media wanted to
crucify the broker but the broker was by far not the only
culprit. What type of person would buy children to
start with is the greater question - and why are governments
allowing the sale of children to start with?
Private adoptions are a disgrace to me and a glorified word
for kidnapping and selling infants. It is my
hope that they are outlawed one day.
Copyright ©
2001 Anne Patterson
Origins Canada co-founder Anne Patterson is an adopted
adult. She is a writer
who specializes in adoption reunions and an activist for
open records and natural family preservation. Anne can
be contacted at searches
@sympatico.ca
